February Linkup With Sheryl From A Chronic Voice

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This month I’m once again participating in the linkup with the lovely Sheryl from A Chronic Voice. Her prompts always make me think, and this month’s were no exception. If you’d like to participate, please check it out here.

This month’s prompts:

February Prompts

Do you ever have trouble adapting to change? I know I do sometimes. People who live with chronic illnesses often have to spend a lot of time adapting: to a “new normal,” to different ways of doing things we used to do without thinking, to physical challenges, to energy deficits….the list goes on. As I thought about this though, I realized that life in general is a process of adapting to different circumstances. We go through many different stages in our lives and as we enter each stage, in order to live well and enjoy our lives, we have to adapt to changes that particular stage brings with it. If we resist and fail to adapt to our new season of life, we risk missing out on all it has to offer. I share this because I hope that if you are struggling to adapt to a new circumstance or season in your life, you can be encouraged by knowing you’re not alone. It’s perfectly normal to resist change and even to have trouble adapting to things, but if you can keep going one more day, one more step, one day you’ll suddenly realize that you’ve arrived at acceptance, at least for now, and you’ve probably grown in the process.

Sometimes, we want to embrace changes and move forward, but a monkey wrench gets thrown into the system. That’s what happened to me over the last couple of weeks. I came into the new year ready to improve my blog, make more connections, and learn how to use social media more effectively. Well, wouldn’t you know it? I ended up with a sinus infection AND eye infections and looking at any type of screen caused my eyes to tear up so much I couldn’t see. I’m just now slowly increasing my time, and that’s only by a little bit. This experience has forced me into practicing patience with myself. I’m not a patient person by nature, especially when it comes to patience with myself. I felt I was getting behind, but I knew that if I exposed my eyes to that much strain I would make them worse instead of better. Rather than get frustrated with myself, I just took advantage of the time away from the screen and took lots of naps. :o) I’m still having to practice patience; it has taken me several days to write this because my eyes are still severely limiting me. Unfortunately, it’s also meant I can’t read as many blog posts, which is definitely disappointing.

Hopefully I’ll be able to work on the computer more soon. I need to get busy, especially with figuring out social media. I’m realizing just how lost I am when it comes to using social media for your blog. I’m on Facebook and Pinterest, but I know I’m not using them effectively and I really don’t even know where to start. I’ve bought books for the basics, but I don’t know the exact etiquette for group boards, etc., so I hesitate to post anything anywhere other than on my own boards. So yeah, I have my work cut out for me…. I love to learn, though, so that’s a plus!

I’ll be taking some time off from that learning in order to celebrate Valentine’s Day. Although my hubby and I will be celebrating 20 years of marriage this year, we will only be celebrating our 19th Valentine’s Day together. Pretty weird, huh? We met in early March of 1998 and got married 10 weeks later. We always tell people we don’t recommend that route – those first couple of years were HARD – but it worked out well for us, and here we are 20 years and 19 Valentine’s Days later…. We’ve decided to go out to dinner on Tuesday rather than actually going on Valentine’s Day. Our favorite “date place” also seems to be everyone else’s on the 14th, so we’re going to avoid the crowd and long wait for food, and go the day before.

Wow, I sure do share a lot about me in these posts, don’t I? I’m generally a very private person and don’t share a lot of details with folks, even those I’ve known for years, but here I am, inviting each of you into my life as if I’ve known you forever. I’ve been so blessed through my association with all of you through this blog, and though I’ve never met most of you, I feel I’ve made a bunch of new friends. Though I started this blog with the hope of helping others, it’s ended up being an even bigger blessing to me!

Thanks again to Sheryl for hosting this linkup. It’s always fun to think about the prompts and how they apply to our day-to-day lives. If you live with chronic illness and would like to participate, please head on over to A Chronic Voice and join the party!


~ Terri 





  1. Oh my ten weeks; how wonderful. My Sweetheart and I met and then married six weeks later. We were married twenty-nine years when she passed away. The time seemed like twenty minutes. A very short twenty minutes. Congrats to you and yourn’ … g

    1. Wow! You guys were even quicker than we were to tie the knot! Sometimes you just know when you’ve met THE ONE. I’m so glad you and your Sweetheart had a wonderful twenty-nine years together. I’m sure she was a very special lady. Blessings to you friend!

      1. My Sweetheart was very special Ms Terri. Her last two years which were her fourth and fifth dialysis years, I was her 24/7 caregiver. The day she passed away from a heart valve failure, I loved her more than the treasured day we married.

  2. Lovely post, yes we do get rather impatient with ourselves more than any other.

    Especially those of us who have chronic health conditions.

    My present hubby proposed on Valentine’s day!

    1. Thank you Jennifer! I really am much more patient with others than I am myself. I’m learning to give myself grace though. I’m sure getting engaged on Valentine’s Day was really special.❤️ Have a great week!

  3. Thank you for participating in the monthly linkups for people with chronic illnesses again, Terri! I really loved reading this, and your perspectives made me think as well 🙂 I also love how you wove the prompts into a single flow 🙂

    I was just wondering, what are your biggest questions regarding social media, and which platform(s) are you most drawn to? I was thinking of setting up a course for chronic illness bloggers, or least write a post some time about it!

    1. Thank you so much Sheryl! I appreciate you being our host and giving us such thought-provoking prompts for the linkup.

      I think my biggest questions are centered around which platforms I should concentrate my effort on (I’m an old lady and don’t want to have to learn them all ha ha!) and the etiquette for posting; ie, I’m in the tailwind tribe you set up, but I don’t know if I should post my posts or pin other people’s posts, etc., or how often I should add things, and the same thing goes for the group boards. I just don’t want to be rude, but I don’t really understand the rules….😊 If you offered a course I would definitely sign up!

      Have a wonderful week!

      1. Hi Terri!,

        Heh it can be very confusing indeed, especially when each platform has its own ‘rules’ and things move so quickly on the internet (part of the reason why I hated my previous job as a coder in ad agencies). Thanks for the feedback, and thank you for participating in the linkups once again! xxx

    1. Thank you so much Brigid! I’m getting better and I’m slowly increasing my screen time again. I wasn’t blessed with a lot of patience, but sometimes I think God slows me down on purpose, FOR a purpose. I’m slowly learning to give myself the grace I give others.😊 Thank you for your well-wishes for our Valentine’s celebration. Have a fabulous week!

    1. Thanks so much for stopping by, and welcome to the blogosphere! I think you’ll find you’re going to “meet” a lot of wonderful people here. I’ll definitely pop by your blog later. Have a wonderful day!

  4. Thank you for sharing a bit about yourself. It helps me to be reminded that everyone has struggles with changes. I hope your eyes get better soon.

    1. Thanks so much Kathy! It definitely helps to know we’re not alone in our struggles. My eyes are finally doing better. You never realize how much you take things for granted until you can’t do them anymore…. I’m glad to be getting back to normal.😊 Hope you have a wonderful day!

  5. What a lovely post, Terri! I like how you’ve incorporated the prompts this month. I’ve finally got mine up too, late as usual haha…. With chronic illness we have to adapt don’t we, adapt or suffer. We don’t really have a choice. But as you said, everybody, not only spoonies, needs to adapt to constant change. Life doesn’t stand still. We cannot remain stagnant.

    Congratulations on your 20 years of marriage!

    1. Thanks so much Char! I think learning to adapt is one of our most important life lessons. Like you said, with chronic illness we adapt or we suffer. Sometimes we suffer anyway, but if we’re adaptable we can be much more resilient. Blessings to you!

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