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[Reblog] Keeping the Holidays Happy – Tips for Dealing with Difficult People

Okay, you guys, I promise I’m going to stop running these “reruns” soon, but I’ve been so busy with preparing for our neighborhood Christmas party this past week that I haven’t had time to even think about writing. Hopefully I’ll have a new post ready for Wellness Wednesday. Thanks for your patience, and I hope this is a timely reminder for you!


“It’s the most wonderful time of the year….” That song just keeps going through my head as I type this. For me, this IS the most wonderful time of the year. I love all the bright lights, good food, and the way that for the most part, people just seem to be a little nicer this time of year (unless you’re trying to get a parking spot at the mall, then all bets are off!) …Oh, and let’s not forget all the parties and family get-togethers.

These gatherings can be joyous occasions filled with love and peace…..until (insert name here – we probably all know that one person) comes in. Suddenly, the mood in the room changes, and we all start looking for a place to hide. It may not be that drastic, but you get the idea.

Dealing with difficult people is never a pleasant experience, but if we let it, it can ruin the party for us, and in the case of those of us who deal with fibromyalgia, if our “fight or flight” response gets stirred up, it could ruin a couple of days. We can’t guarantee that we won’t encounter any negative people during our holiday gatherings, and we certainly don’t want to miss out on all the fun, so what can we do when we run into these party poopers?

Here are a couple of tips I’ve found helpful:

  • Realize that it’s their problem, not yours. Most people who are hard to get along with are coming from a place of pain. They’re unhappy or insecure, so they (perhaps subconsciously) want everyone else to be unhappy or insecure also. The holidays may be even more stressful for them, and this can make them even more difficult.
  • Take a deep breath and count to three before you respond to them. Old advice, but it’s been around a long time for a reason — it works.
  • Treat them with respect, even when they don’t deserve it. It’s not always easy, but it says everything about your character when you’re able to take the high road.
  • Set clear boundaries. Treating others with respect doesn’t mean you allow them to treat you poorly. You have to ensure you establish what you consider acceptable behavior. If they can’t respect your boundaries, remove yourself from the situation.
  • Choose to forgive. Unforgiveness really only hurts the one who can’t forgive. The other person probably doesn’t even give their hurtful words or actions another thought so it definitely doesn’t hurt them.
  • Once the encounter is over, do what you need to do to deal with the emotions. Don’t just stuff them down; that’s how a lot of us get into trouble in the first place. I’ve found that prayer and writing are my most effective ways to do this, but whatever yours is, do it. Don’t dwell on it!

We get to choose how we react to each situation and person that we encounter. It’s not always easy to make the right choice, but if we have some tools in our toolbox ahead of time, it’s easier to pull the right one out when we need it. Just try not to use the hammer…. :o)

How do you handle interactions with difficult people? Please share your tips!




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    1. Thanks so much Bar! I’ve noticed that several of us are revamping or re-posting old posts. It just gets so busy this time of year! Next year I hope to have posts done far enough ahead of time so I can keep publishing new posts. Of course, we’ll see if I actually manage that or not. 😊 I hope you have a fabulous Christmas sweet friend!

  1. This is FANTASTIC, Terri. Very timely as Christmas has a way of throwing us towards people that may be ‘difficult’ and when we may already be stressed and exhausted enough it can be quite emotionally demanding. It’s not easy to navigate, especially when they’re people you can’t just ignore too easily, like family. Great post, and reruns are brilliant – my memory is awful so you could do reruns from two months ago and I wouldn’t remember 😂
    Caz xxxx

  2. That’s okay if it’s a reblog, this post is always something that needs to be said over and over again. It’s good advice in dealing with the unwanted. All that matters is that we don’t become like them. Thanks for spreading some positivity during this holiday season Terri!

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