Happy Wednesday everyone! I hope you’re having a great week so far and that if you were in the path of the hurricane, you all stayed safe. For this week’s Wellness Wednesday, I thought we’d take a look at how we’re talking to ourselves.
On Monday, we talked about how our thoughts turn into our self-talk, and how the way we talk to ourselves can help or harm us. When we let things like ANTs (automatic negative thoughts) just run willy-nilly through our minds they can wreak havoc on us mentally and physically. These unchecked thoughts become our self-talk.
How we talk to ourselves really matters! The thoughts that we entertain over and over can become what we believe about ourselves. If we tell ourselves over and over that we’re weak, we’re a failure, we’re ______________(you fill in the blank), that’s what we’re going to believe.
On the other hand, if we tell ourselves that we’re strong, that although we’ve failed at something, we can use it as a learning experience, etc., we believe that instead.
Because we act on how we feel, we have to filter our thoughts and ‘feed’ our minds a steady diet of things that are helpful to us. As we talked about on Monday, we need to T.H.I.N.K. before we speak to ourselves. When we filter those thoughts some things to ask ourselves are: Is it TRUE? Is it HELPFUL? Is it INSPIRING? Is it NECESSARY? Is it KIND?
This helps us speak more kindly, yet truthfully to ourselves, and empowers us to turn our self-talk into a tool to help us move forward.
This week, let’s ask ourselves:
Making sure we capture and process our thoughts can help us improve our self-talk. This can, in turn, help us improve our overall wellness. We already know that our mental health can affect our physical health and vice versa. Why not give our minds a ‘healthy diet’ of helpful information?
How’s your self-talk? Do you ever catch yourself saying things to yourself that you’d never say to others? If so, you’re not alone.
What changes do you want to make to the way you process your thoughts and talk to yourself? If you’re comfortable sharing, I’d love to hear!