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WW Question – Wellness Expectations

Happy Wednesday everyone! How have your wellness endeavors been going lately? Are they going the way you expected?

On Monday, we talked about how we can become victims of our own expectations when it comes to making wellness changes. We live in such a quick-fix society that we want immediate results without much work — even if it’s only subconsciously. That’s why managing our expectations when it comes to wellness is so important.

I’m just going to be honest here. I know better, and there are times that I can still fall victim to having unrecognized or unrealistic expectations. If you’ve been part of the Reclaiming HOPE family for long, you know that I live with fibromyalgia. That means that I have some limitations when it comes to certain things, especially physical activity. The problem is that somewhere, in the back of my mind, I still expect to be able to do the things I used to do pre-fibromyalgia.

Guess what — those expectations set me up for disappointment and feelings of failure. The pure, simple fact is that I can’t do all the things I used to do, and most likely, will not be able to. The great thing, though, is that there are plenty of things I can do.

Do you ever find yourself in the same boat? The problem with those subconscious or unrealistic expectations is that they can set us up for failure.

Taking a good, long look at what our expectations really are around a given wellness change can help us approach our wellness endeavors realistically and give us long-term success instead of a ‘quick fix’ that doesn’t last.

This week, let’s ask ourselves:

Teal background with white conversation bubble that reads, "What am I really expecting from this wellness change? Are these expectations realistic? What are some of the trade-offs I may have to make to get the results I want? Am I willing to make these trade-offs or do I need to adjust my expectations?

Have you ever, like me, fallen victim to unrealistic expectations when it comes to your wellness? How did it turn out? Do you think there’s value in making managing your expectations a part of your goal-setting process? Please share!

Blessings,

~Terri

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15 comments

  1. Oh absolutely. I’ve just commented on your earlier post and already I’m thinking of countless times where unrealistic hopes, goals and expectations have ended badly. For me, it’s a sense of frustration that really irks me when I can’t do the things I used to, then a sense of hopelessness that follows. Lately, and for quite a while now, I feel like I’m always behind. The problem is, I’m setting expectations of getting so much done that’s just not realistic, so I’ll never catch up because it’s not possible to. And yet I’m still trying to run that treadmill, climbing up the hill like Alice in Wonderland without actually moving an inch. I find it very hard to let go of those kinds of expectations because of guilt, and that ‘need’ to do more. When it comes to expectations of my health generally, like trying something new or taking a new prescription, I don’t have as many problems; I’m very realistic, I don’t get my hopes up, I expect the worst but hope for the best. Another excellent topic to cover, Terri! xx

    1. We really can be our own worst enemies, can’t we? Setting those high expectations for ourselves, even when we know our time/energy levels/pain threshold may not allow us to reach them, is complete madness. I’m glad you don’t put those expectations on yourself as much with your health, and I hope you’ll be able to learn to do the same with your task accomplishment. I hope you’re managing to stay safe and as well as possible. Hugs!

  2. Thanks for the post Terri. You are so right. Even though I consider myself a naturally “slow and steady wins the race” kind of person, I often get discouraged when expected results from an action aren’t realized on my timetable.

    1. Thanks so much for sharing Tim! It’s amazing how easily we can get discouraged when we don’t see results in the timeframe we expect them, isn’t it? That’s one reason learning to focus on the process rather than the results can be so helpful. Stay well, dear friend!

  3. Moving house means we are too often too tired to cook. For about a week we ate out and then I harnessed some energy to prepare soup and a healthy pasta dish to keep us going a few days. What a difference it makes to eat well. At least for now. Our actual move is in a week and I’m sure we’ll be back to restaurant food.

    1. Well, the good news is that you know it’s only temporary while you’re moving. It’s always nice when you have that first home-cooked meal in your new home, isn’t it? Every time we’ve moved, when I was able to cook that first meal, I was thrilled. We usually had been eating out for weeks as we transitioned from one place to another. Wishing you all the best with your move. I’m sure you’re going to really enjoy your new home.

  4. Yes, managing unrealistic expectations with reality is definitely an important part of our wellness journey especially for our mental health wellness with chronic conditions Terri.

    I do fall into this expectation trap every now & then, although have been able to get to a place where it isn’t as prevalent as it once was in the beginning of my Fibromyalgia journey.
    Blessings,
    Jennifer

    1. Thanks so much for sharing Jennifer! You make such a great point about managing our expectations being important for our mental health when we have chronic conditions. Sending hugs your way sweet friend!

  5. Thank you for your wonderful post. I believe in dreaming big and setting realistic goals. I want them to scare me but I have to believe I can attain them, if not I won’t even get started. I focus on the process and not the timetable. By knowing that I can and will achieve my goals, I release myself from worrying about when it will happen. Most of my goals are completed within the dates I set. Once again, thank you and I hope you have a great day.

    1. Thanks so much for sharing Chief! You make an excellent point about having to believe we can attain our goals (even the ones that scare us) or we won’t get started. I really think having a realistic view of our goals and what it takes to get there can be the difference between success and failure. I’m glad to hear you have a system and are able to complete your goals within your established timelines. Thanks so much for stopping by. Blessings to you!

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