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Subtle Signs Your Loved One Is Living With Chronic Pain

Did you know that September is Pain Awareness Month? According to the US Pain Foundation, “50 million Americans live with chronic pain” and “pain is the leading cause of disability in adults.” In honor of Pain Awareness Month I’d like to share this older post again. Hopefully this can help raise awareness of some of the signs people might display when they’re in pain.

My brother sent me this photo one day. If you look very closely, you may be able to find the tiny tree frog hiding in there. Actually, he’s not hiding at all, but sitting out there in plain sight.

Tree Frog (2)

That’s kind of how invisible illnesses and many chronic pain conditions are. They’re there, but because there don’t seem to be any outward manifestations of illness, people assume everything is fine. Invisible illnesses are those that are not readily apparent to the casual observer. The person living with this type of illness or chronic pain may not look “sick” at all, but inside, every moment of every day may be a challenge.

I’ve heard so many stories of people who were told, “but you don’t look sick”, “you’re faking it”, or “it’s all in your head.” They want to be believed, but because there’s no glaringly obvious physical problem, they fight an uphill battle to be heard, and sometimes, to receive proper treatment.

Others get so good at hiding it that not even those who are closest to them realize how much pain they’re in. Many just hide behind masks and pretend everything is okay in an attempt to have a “normal” life (See My Mask Fell Off).

What if we could see what was going on with our loved ones? What if there was some way for us to see what was going on inside? Obviously we can’t do that, but there are subtle clues if you look closely.

Subtle Signs Your Loved One Is Living with Chronic Pain

  •  They don’t participate in activities they once loved.
  •  They seem restless, changing positions often.
  • They’ve become more withdrawn.
  •  You notice them pursing their lips, or wincing, with certain movements.
  • They seem to move more slowly, or take great care in the way they move.
  • Their eyes may appear more dull or tired-looking.
  • They may have a change in appetite.
  • They may find it difficult to make decisions.
  • They may make plans with you and then cancel.
  • They may seem to run out of energy quickly.
  • You may notice a change in personality.
  • They may have trouble remembering things.

Obviously, this list is not all-inclusive, and isn’t meant to be used as a diagnostic tool; rather, it can help start a conversation with your loved one if you suspect something is going on with them. You can let them know that you care, and although you may not be able to completely understand, you’re willing to learn how you can help. That’s one of the greatest gifts you can give them.

And to lighten it up a little, for those of you who might be wondering where the frog is…..

Tree Frog Reveal

If you live with chronic pain, what would you like for people to know? What are some of the things you do or ways you compensate when you’re in pain? Please share!



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